What’s Love Got To Do With It?

By Kellie Fiedorek

Reflecting on this week of Thanksgiving, I am particularly grateful for my mother and father who gave me life.  And not only did they give me life, but I have had the opportunity to grow up knowing who my mother and father are.

I have a deeper appreciation for this relationship because, in the area of reproductive technology, some scientific innovations have significantly jeopardized the best interests of children.  Sexual intimacy has been severed from reproduction, and children are being intentionally denied the opportunity of even knowing who their biological mother and father are.  This is because the growing trend and mindset in this arena focuses on adults and essentially ignores the needs and legal rights of the child.

These realities raise some key questions.

Does it matter if you are the result of love and passion between your biological mom and dad?  Or are you okay with your parents being donor numbers 548 and 2143? Would it hurt you to never know—or even have the opportunity to know—who your biological parents are?

Does it matter if you are an act of science rather than an act of love?

Have you ever stopped to consider the implications for those children who result from anonymous sperm or egg donation?

Consider the following examples: Would the inability to know where we inherited the ability to paint or to throw a Hail Mary pass frustrate us?  Do we want to know who to blame for our receding hairline or whom to thank for our musical talent? Are we okay with not knowing that our eyes look just like our mother’s or that we are predisposed to certain genetic diseases?  And what about falling in love with someone we are related to?

If these connections don’t matter, you might analogously conclude that we can stop keeping track of which parents a baby belongs to in the maternity ward.  As long as some baby goes home with each set of parents, it doesn’t matter if it is the particular baby given to them nine months before in their act of love for each other.

But if family and biological ties do matter, perhaps it’s time to take a closer look at the reproductive industry, and its children.  An estimated 30,000 – 60,000 children are born each year through sperm and egg donation— and as there are no reporting requirements on these vital statistics, this is only an educated guess.

At a minimum, the reproductive industry needs investigation and regulation to align it more closely with other areas of the law involving children.  Indeed, social justice needs us to represent and safeguard societies’ most vulnerable: children.

What’s love got to do with it?  Perhaps it’s more critical than a sweet old fashioned notion or fairytale ending.  It matters to our children, and at Alliance Defending Freedom, we will continue to strengthen marriages and families by working to ensure that no child has to wonder about their origins.  We want all children to be able to know to whom they should express their appreciation for the gift of life.

Author: Alliance Defending Freedom